Life as a long-term bum/volunteer

So tonight I got super teary over something that I don’t even want to discuss because it’s so pointless and I’m not one to share my laundry or ups and downs on Facebook (It solves nothing). So I have decided to look at my long list of possible blog titles and start writing as it helps even when its about a completely different thing.

So welcome to my life as a long term bum/volunteer. It’s both because I’m terrible at balancing and pacing in my life so I do too much of the latter and end up doing a lot of time as the former. As you know I struggle health wise with quite a few different things (mainly all as a result of my bone marrow transplant). I’ve recently changed the way I talk about it and boy has that helped lots. Now instead of replying to the What do you do? question with I can’t work because I was once really sick…. to I volunteer. Boy has that helped set up the conversations that follow it. (I’ve covered this in one of my earlier blog posts.)

However, today I’d love to give you an insight into what living this life is truly like. Pre summer I was doing loads with CLIC Sargent and was on lots of different groups, helped by representing them at things ect… ect… Over this summer I’ve done a bit for Ellen Macarthur Cancer Trust which take children and young people in recovery from cancer sailing. However with my last trip of the summer fast approaching I’m left feeling a little lost…. What will I do when this wraps up (and I’ve recovered from the sailing). The answer right now- I’m not entirely sure. (This is quite a scary thing for me but I know something will slot into place). I guess the unknown of whats next is scary because I don’t plan- because I simply can’t I have maybe 2 weeks in my head at a time- post that its normally waiting to see how long it takes me to recover from x or y… or simply too far off for me to think about. When I make plans and they fall through and its not me cancelling they hit me quite hard because I have to plan more than most to be able to do things… Thinking about pre rest time and post crash time. I don’t know why but takes me a day or so to think clearly about the reasons why things fell through, and why it benefits me in the long run as I can then do x or y instead- I suppose its because for some things that last 4 days I could have 2 weeks either side planned to prepare for it. However, this by no means that sometimes I can’t do things last minute either (I just have to be well first).

The life of someone with chronic fatigue is frustrating and something I wouldn’t wish upon anyone. It’s exhausting planning, preparing and pre-empting how many spoons (units of energy) your going to need. Its frustrating that after a weekend of doing thinks (a normal person wouldn’t think twice about) your so shattered you spend your evening teary over the most pathetic things because your just exhausted… In so many ways and sleep and rest is all you can do for 4 days+ so that when the next event/trip or fun thing on your to do list happens you have enough energy to actually do it. I wouldn’t change doing the things I do- and never want to stop doing things. I just really wish I wouldn’t have the crippling days (or weeks when i really overdo it) of paying for having a bit of fun or just doing something normal.

I’m struggling a bit if I’m honest with this life- well because its more like a half life… only able to do so much before you crash. I recently had a DWP fit for work assessment and it stressed me out so much I made no/ very little plans for about 2 months. I missed out on opportunities I’d normally jump at because my ability to plan like I would normally went out of the window. When it came to the actual assessment the assessor realised in reality not much had changed in the years since I was last assessed. While at the time I was a bit confused because I thought they had (they really hadn’t). You may see me on a good day- Yes sometimes I can jump and dance, sometimes i can walk to the bay- other times walking to the corner of my road is simply too far and getting dressed can take a life time. It can be really tough. Most of the the time I refuse to let on the hard side of it. I’m far too busy looking at life through the positive light and seeing the massive amounts of opportunities I am able to get, the time with friends I’m fortunate to have, the flexibility to rest around the things I want to do.

This ‘LIFESTYLE’ (as it was once described to me) of being on benefits, isn’t fun. It’s really not as glamorous as it looks (yes I have time to go for coffee’s) but the funds don’t really push to nice trips out, or holidays. It doesn’t mean that because I have the time- I have the funds or energy to travel to you and visit. It’s not a blessing to not have to work (yes it has it’s perks) but I would love to use this brain, and my skills to hold down a full time job. I would love to have the energy to do all the things normal people do (including working without fatigue), I’d also love to be able to say wow work was tiring today…. Instead it’s I got driven to lunch and sat for 2 hours now I’m in tears because I’m just too tired *but knowing sleep won’t help*.

Today, it got a bit much and the emotions of being tired and knowing I’ll be resting till monday so I am in Tip-Top form to go sailing got a bit big. I wouldn’t change for the Trust at all (right now it’s all I’ve got to look forward to). I wanted to let you all know- remember when ‘I look well’ or seem ok- one of ¬†four things is happening; Ive prepared well and am ok, something weird is happening and I’m having a good patch, am hiding it, or I’m approaching a crash. Please remember even when you don’t see it, doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.

Thanks for understanding (or trying to)

Wen x

 

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Immunology

The past few days I’ve been a zombie but a zombie in recovery its been really weird. I suppose it all starts with the confession, I gave up on my meds. It’s not even like I know I don’t need it but about 4 months ago I just didn’t want to stab myself week in week out to give myself an immune system so it wasn’t a complete nahhh I won’t do it. More it got in the way of my life. I would get a text from a friend asking to go for a coffee and I’d do it and say ‘I’ll just do my infusion tomorrow’… I sort of fell out of the habit. Don’t get me wrong now I hadn’t stopped completely (well not until that last month) I just wasn’t doing it every week. It got to the point tho that when I realised I’d missed 3/4 weeks in a row that it was time to fess up to the medics…. So I tentatively called them and explained where I was at. I knew I needed the control taken back off me and so I was really pleased to hear they were happy to have me back on day patient care once every 3 weeks to give me a break.

The medics got it 100% they knew where I was at and they kind of were expecting it. Telling other though some thought it was a sign that I couldn’t cope or was being an idiot playing with my health. (Yes I was but also I’m fine thanks I know my own body). Anyway Tuesday I went into adult immunology day unit (where I did my sub-cut training). I have always had my IvIG on the Teenage Cancer Trust Unit in Cardiff so was a little unsure on what to expect but my infusions on TCT never we quicker than 6hrs normally more like 9hrs. So I packed my bag ready to be entertained all day.

The differences… well TCT next to never had my immunoglobulin on the ward when I arrived at 9am… sometimes it hadn’t even been ordered. I walked into Immunology at 10 to 9 one patient was already sat being hooked up and my immunoglobulin was already on the side waiting for me (sometimes on TCT I could easily wait an hour and a half or more for it to come up from Pharmacy). By 9.03 i’d seen two nurses and my IvIG was up and running. I had it through my hand like normal but instead of a cannula they had it going through a butterfly needle…. So much easier to get in.

I had been warned that the infusion would go slowly due to it being the first time on it in some time. The nurse didn’t need her iPhone or spend an age working out the maths for rates- it was instinctive (mainly because they do it all the time) but you’d have thought this would have been the case up on TCT after 5 years of giving it to me, Lydia and the others. The rate was increased each time with next to no wait for a nurse to come and up the flow. TCT because of the larger social space and the number of people walking in at different times sometimes you’d wait 15 mins before someone could come (I get it 100% they are really busy- but occasionally you’d end up having to press the call button to get someone to come upstairs as they all vanish). However never in a million years did I expect to be told even on the slower rate i was kept on Tuesday it should only take 3 hours. Next time (in 3 weeks time) as long as I’ve had no major side effects (did get a migraine last night but had also drunk so….) it will take 2 HOURS!!!! How then did it always take SOOOOOOO long on TCT. My flat mate when I got home pointed out my infusions at home take me that long because of migraines and that’s once a week so if it only takes 2 hours once every 3 weeks that’s something I’ll have to weigh up.

There are pro’s and cons to IV verses Subcut and I’m sure when I’m re-weighing that up next month or so I’ll end up writing about that. I’m just a bit shell-shocked at the difference in care. This is defiantly something I’ll be discussing with my medic’s next time round as their has to be a way of improving the service when it’s offered through TCT.

Part of me thinks if it had been like this the whole time I’d prob never have switched to subcut in the first place… However I am pleased I switched because the alternative at the time was long days once every 3/4 weeks on TCT.

Recovery from my infusion was a little different than it use to be I ended up with a whole afternoon and evening free (this never happened before I’d usually get home and crash). However, I met family down the bay went on a boat ride wandered round the wetlands then went home and rested before going out for food. Ok so the next day I was a complete zombie and did next to nothing then a rest all day the following day so I could go celebrate someone’s birthday last night. Then it brings me to today which has been a slow day. I hadn’t quite realised how run down, worn out and burnt out I had become being off my meds however my email inbox marked with 450+ unread messages showed me just how zombie I had been. Now my inbox looks much healthier with 0 unread messages. I’ve responded to people who have been waiting months for an answer. So bad! I’m still in that groggy stage that doing anything makes me tired but I’m doing way better than I had been.

Hopefully by the next time I write I’ll be able to do even more and will be feeling much more like me.

Till next time….

Wen

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